How Realistic are Romantic Comedies?

atkins-bookshelf-moviesOne of the most popular romantic comedies of all time is When Harry Met Sally… (1989) written by Nora Ephron and directed by Rob Reiner. In 2008, The American Film Institute ranked it as the 6th best romantic comedy of all time. The film, inspired by Reiner’s return to single life after his divorce, revolves around the critical question that Harry Burns (Billy Crystal) asks Sally Albright (Meg Ryan) during a cab ride early in the film: can men and women ever just be friends — platonically, without the benefits? Harry and Sally passionately disagree (Harry doesn’t think so; Sally does). Over the span of many years, the two bump into each other and a friendship gradually grows into a romantic relationship. Outside of the deli scene (with Rob Reiner’s real mother delivering the famous line: “I’ll have what she’s having.”), one of the film’s most memorable scenes is when Harry professes his love to Sally on New Year’s Eve: “I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” Hand me the box of tissues…

Romantic comedies like this also beg the larger question: how realistic are romantic comedies? How do they compare with real world relationships? Do people really have Harry-Sally relationships  — transitioning from the dreaded “friend zone” to a romantic relationship? The folks at Daily Infographic reviewed surveys and laughed and cried their way through the top 150 romantic comedies to come up with a snap shot of romance, titled: “Hollywood vs. Real Life.” Interestingly, out of all those movies, only one dealt with online dating (You’ve Got Mail, released in 1998; also written by Nora Ephron and starring Meg Ryan ). Here is a look at romance by the numbers — and how unrealistic romantic comedies truly are:

Experienced “love at first sight”:
Hollywood: 10%
Real life: 45%

Experienced unrequited love (loving someone who doesn’t love them back):
Hollywood: 6%
Real life: 78%

Lied to someone to get them to like them:
Hollywood: 21%
Real life: 53%

Experienced an “opposites attract” relationship:
Hollywood: 29%
Real life: 66%

Experienced a Harry-Sally relationship (growing from a friendship into a romantic relationship):
Hollywood: 7%
Real life: 72%

Have experienced online dating:
Hollywood: 1%
Real life: 48%

Read related posts: Famous Love Quotes from Movies
The Best Love Stories
Best Academy Award Quotes
Best Books for Movie Lovers
The Paradox of Love

The Wisdom of Rainer Maria Rilke

For further reading: http://www.dailyinfographic.com/hollywood-vs-real-life-how-realistic-are-romantic-comedies

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